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How to Greet an Orthodox Priest: Ask for a Blessing

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Many people feel awkward about how to greet an Orthodox priest, unsure whether to shake his hand, kiss it, or just say hello. The proper way is to ask for his blessing: place your right palm over your left, facing up, and say, 'Father, bless me.' The priest makes the sign of the cross over you, places his right hand in yours, and you kiss his hand.

When blessing, the priest shapes his fingers into the letters IC XC, the short form of Jesus Christ in Greek, so he blesses in Christ's name, not his own. Kissing his hand honors the hands that hold the body and blood of Christ at every liturgy.

Key moments

  1. Many people feel awkward greeting a priest because they do not know whether to shake his hand, kiss it, or just say hello.
  2. The proper greeting is to ask for his blessing: put your right palm over your left, facing up, and say, 'Father, bless me.'
  3. The priest makes the sign of the cross over you, places his right hand in yours, and you kiss his hand.
  4. When blessing, the priest shapes his fingers into the letters IC XC, the short form of Jesus Christ in Greek, so he blesses in Christ's name, not his own.
  5. Kissing the priest's hand honors the hands that hold the body and blood of Christ at every liturgy.
  6. Next time you see a priest, hold out your hands and say, 'Father, bless me.'

Many people feel awkward when greeting an Orthodox priest because they do not know whether to shake his hand, kiss it, or simply say hello. The video explains the proper greeting: ask for the priest's blessing. You place your right palm over your left, both facing up, and say, 'Father, bless me.' The priest then makes the sign of the cross over you, places his right hand in yours, and you kiss his hand.

The video also explains the gesture the priest makes while blessing. He shapes his fingers to form the letters IC XC, the short form of the name Jesus Christ in Greek. This means the priest blesses in Christ's name, not in his own.

Kissing the priest's hand is explained as a way of honoring the hands that hold the body and blood of Christ at every liturgy. The video closes with a simple instruction: the next time you see a priest, hold out your hands and say, 'Father, bless me.'

Main points

  • Many people feel awkward greeting a priest because they do not know whether to shake his hand, kiss it, or just say hello.
  • The proper greeting is to ask for his blessing: put your right palm over your left, facing up, and say, 'Father, bless me.'
  • The priest makes the sign of the cross over you, places his right hand in yours, and you kiss his hand.
  • When blessing, the priest shapes his fingers into the letters IC XC, the short form of Jesus Christ in Greek, so he blesses in Christ's name, not his own.
  • Kissing the priest's hand honors the hands that hold the body and blood of Christ at every liturgy.
15 opinions in the discussion 14 participants, 7 replies to each other The opinion with the most support Nope, nobody ever taught me either, so thank you for this. Read the discussion
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  • opinion#1021

    Nope, nobody ever taught me either, so thank you for this.

    • opinion#1029

      I'm the opposite!! I'm 46 and my generation was all taught to kiss the priest's hand, so that's all I've ever done. But these days I never see anyone younger than me do it. It's so crazy for me to watch. Confusing I'm sure, if you were never taught. I have taught my kids this though.

  • opinion#1027

    I have a hard time kissing his hand. I still haven't done it.

    • opinion#1030

      I had a hard time with this too. I told my priest it was hard for me. I had to push myself to do it. Now it's a very natural thing for me.

    • opinion#1031

      Are you from a western country? That was my issue too. Once you realize scripture itself says to greet each other with a Holy Kiss... it only makes sense to do it.

    • opinion#1032

      In the old days people used to kiss the hands of their elders, like your grandparents. Think of it that way.

    • opinion#1033

      Separating relatives from non-relatives is what I was taught from day one. Retraining your brain on things like that is hard for some people. A handshake is fine. I just cannot get over the fact that it's a man's hand.

    • opinion#1034

      After your 2nd or 3rd time it feels ABSOLUTELY natural, as hard as that is to imagine... it took me SEVEN MONTHS of being an Inquirer just to kiss Icons, and then the priest's hand.

    • opinion#1035

      You WILL get over the fact it's a man's hand. It's hard to believe it's possible, but trust me, it took me MONTHS just to kiss an Icon, let alone a hand... but you'll come around if you keep attending. Not sure if my example is universal, but the first contact I had, I called the parish and they gave me a cradle Orthodox layman's number to meet up for a short chat and 'coffee'. After attending for MONTHS I kept in touch and kept asking him, is it MANDATORY to kiss the Icon/priest's hand? He said NO, it isn't mandatory, but... try gently laying your forehead on both, do that for a couple months. It helped me 'get over it' and eventually I ended up kissing the icons and the hand (hope that helps). I'm only a Catechumen offering personal experience. Cross and bow twice, gently lay your forehead on the Icon (or the priest's hand right after getting blessed bread), then Cross and bow for the final/3rd... TRY THAT for a couple/few months. NOT dogma, and I'm just a mere Catechumen, but it did help me.

  • opinion#1022

    Our priest tells us not to kiss his hand, and instead he kisses ours. He's a wonderful priest and a beautiful person.

  • opinion#1023

    Most of the church etiquette I know I either picked up from my godmother or learned through my own embarrassing screw ups. Luckily my priest is very gracious about it.

  • opinion#1024

    You should do that on a normal day, not right after the liturgy, because once you've received holy communion you no longer need a blessing.

  • opinion#1026

    Once I had the chance to greet the metropolitan archbishop, and with much respect I did what came from my heart: I said 'bless, Father' and reached out to take his hand and kiss it. My heart was full of joy at having had that opportunity.

  • opinion#1025

    Yes, that was made clear to me in ROCOR. In my experience you wait for the blessing, and only after the priest or bishop signs you with the Cross do you kiss his right hand. There's even a proper way to receive a blessing from an Abbess.

  • opinion#1028

    I'm in a western country, my priest just says hello and expects a hello back, and after blessings he puts his hand on our heads. He pretty much only lets us kiss his hand at the veneration of the Cross at the end of the Liturgy. I kind of wish I could do it the traditional way though. Should I just keep going like this?